Remember to take time for yourself. Sleep when the baby sleeps. These are the things they tell mothers of newborns and infants. Because everybody knows how important it is for a mother to focus on her needs while handling those of her baby. But do the same rules apply as your baby grows into a busy toddler full of zest and exploration, and you’re closer to a break down than sanity? And what about your other relationships? How long do they remain on the back burner?
There’s something a friend said recently that really stuck with me. In the beginning, she wanted to do anything and everything for her child, and she never wanted to leave her side. So much so that it became all about her little, and her needs and the needs of her spouse got pushed aside.
This is all too common.
About a month ago, I was able to get away and spend the day shopping and talking and enjoying quality time with a friend. Something that I often took for granted when I had the luxury of freestyling plans or loads of free time, but on this day, in this new life– I loved it. And I realized that I need more of it. It was then that I noticed how much I needed that breath of fresh air. That time away, to refresh and return a better Jen.
I realized– Its okay to take a break. Take the long way home. Enjoy a bubble bath while he and baby do the grocery shopping. Indulge in a massage. Enjoy a girls night. Then come right back and be the amazing parent that you are. I know that in the end, J probably won’t count the number of date nights I had or hours I spent away with Auntie Lyn (hey sister!). I know that creating strong relationships with the people that matter is what will make me a better me, for her. Its time to continue investing in relationships!